I’ve got forgiveness down. It’s as natural as breathing to me. I believe we are all naturally inclined to forgive. It’s a survival tool. Failing to forgive causes more harm to us than to the offending person.
But forgetting is another story. I’ve also always had an annoyingly good memory. I eventually learned and adopted the somewhat jaded phrase, “Forgive but never forget”. Somewhere along the beautiful and unpredictable journey of life we learn that we must protect ourselves, that we can forgive but we should never forget, and we do not have to trust again. I don’t regret adopting this jaded but wise sentiment. I needed it to create boundaries and re-establish my self-worth. However, greater self-worth leads to greater self-awareness, greater wisdom, greater responsibility, and ultimately just like the great circle of life, greater humility, compassion, understanding, and love. To me, coming full circle means resting in love. Love conquers all.
For now, I totally get the value of forgetting. When you forget, at least a little, you can change the past. The events from the past become fluid and observable again. Because you’re not really forgetting the facts, you’re forgetting your thoughts about your own memories, which means you can transform the whole experience. That can change everything about what happened back then, and how you feel about it in the now. We truly are multidimensional beings. We can be in the “now”, even in the past.
Sincerely, Dragonfly
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